Everything that you “know” about living your life your way is probably wrong, and that’s okay. After all, you can only go by the things that you’ve learned in your experience and education. You probably went to school just like every other person on the planet and learned the basic ABC’s and 123’s, a little bit about history, a little bit about art, and a little bit about a couple of other things you probably can’t even remember.
You probably learned how to pass the tests and to please your teacher and parents, but you might not have the slightest idea as to how to really please yourself. You probably learned how to stay out of trouble with the authorities at your school, but might not have learned the principles of persuasion, influence and leadership.
You might have learned a little bit about the human body, but what you learned probably didn’t help you to gain a healthy body. You probably studied about the great people of history, but you probably never learned how to live by the principles which made great.
Most important, you probably learned how to count money and to make change, but chances are you don’t know as much as you’d like to about earning good money and building wealth.
In other words, what you learned in school did little to help you understand how the world really works.
Let’s look at a few statistics:
Less than 20% of the world’s population controls over 80% of the wealth.
The majority of individuals living in highly industrialized societies are either overweight or obese.
The majority of people living in North America are living paycheck to paycheck…and that’s one of the wealthiest areas of the world.
This is not to mention the nearly astronomical amount of consumer debt that plagues most working and middle-class people.
Now let’s take an honest look at the circumstances of your life: do you have the relationships you really want?
Are you satisfied with your level of self confidence and inner peace?
Do you make enough money to have a reasonable amount of financial security and to buy the things you want?
Are you satisfied with the condition of your physical health?
And most important:
If you were to die tomorrow, what kind of a legacy would you leave behind in the hearts and minds of the people you love most?
If any of the above questions caused an unsettled feeling in your heart, a sense of dissatisfaction, shame or even guilt, then one thing is certain:
The rules which you learned to live your life according to aren’t producing the results you really want.
As depressing as this might seem, it’s actually a very good place to start when it comes to fulfilling your dreams and becoming your best self.
Why is this?
Because dissatisfaction presents you with an opportunity to change your approach and thus to get the results you really want. But this starts with accepting the fact that the way the world works is different than what you might now believe. If this were not true, you’d probably be a whole lot more satisfied with your life and have more of what you really want.
So now that we have that out of the way, let’s look at a few of the popular myths which keep people from getting what they really want:
Successful People are Lucky
There’s no doubt that chance plays a role in all of our lives. There’s no doubt that sometimes bad things happen to good people and that good things happen to bad people. But it’s also true that billions of people go through their lives tolerating poverty, poor relationships and poor health because of something they call “bad luck.”
In his best-selling book “Think and Grow Rich,” author Napoleon Hill wrote about a series of experiments which was done to determine how “lucky” people got that way.
The results of the experiment proved that lucky people were simply those who remembered the good things that had happened to them and who focused on what they really wanted.
On the other hand, people with “bad luck” remembered mostly the bad things that had happened to them and focused on what they didn’t want.
As you’re about to learn, this alone is the most important difference between people who get what they want and people who don’t get what they want.
Your Problems Are Other People’s Fault
Most people who don’t have what they want out of life will be quick to tell you exactly who or what caused their life to turn out that way. In other words, most people see themselves as victims of either circumstances or the choices of others, and thus neglect their own power to assert control over their own life.
Again, there is no doubt that chance plays a role in all of our lives and that we’re sometimes directly or indirectly affected by the choices of others. But the most successful people in the world acknowledge that no matter what happens to them, they are always in control of who they decide to become as a result.
And that makes all the difference.
Rich People Are Either Greedy or Were Born that Way
This is probably the leading cause of poverty and financial misfortune. Believing that rich people are greedy makes it almost certain that you will never become rich yourself. After all, who wants to be seen as a greedy person? Not to mention that this belief will also keep you from seeking advice from wealthy people about how to make money and build wealth.
Instead, you’ll end up doing what the majority of people do: they take financial advice from other broke people and wonder why they stay broke. The belief that rich people were “born that way” is just as crippling. Over 80% of the millionaires in North America are first-generation rich. That means they built their wealth out of nothing.
There’s no reason why you can’t do the same. But first you have to let go of the myth that rich people have to be either greedy or born that way.
You Are Who You Are, You Can’t Change
There’s no doubt that genetics plays a role in our development and in our capabilities to perform certain duties in life. But there are also a lot of people who believe that they were born the way they are and that there’s nothing they can do to change. For example, many people are shy or passive and believe that it’s just the way they are.
The same is true with people’s beliefs about their degree of willpower, self-reliance, creativity, discipline, assertiveness and many other character traits. Many people have problems with anger, poor health, low self-esteem, procrastination or timidity and believe that they are that way because of their parents, their nationality, their cultural upbringing and a whole slew of other things.
In reality, all of these character traits are a result of habits which a person has formed by a lifetime of repeated choices. Once these choices become a habit, people develop the crippling belief that these habits are no longer choices.
Your life and your habits are not products of your genetics or your circumstances; they are the product of your choices. And you’re about to learn how to start making the choices which will make all the difference in living your life your way.