Flirting with women is all about getting off on the right foot. The first impression that you make with a woman will set the pace for the entire interaction…and relationship (if it goes there).
So the key to flirting effectively is getting off on the right foot when it comes to playing the indirect game of flirting. And there are a few rules that you need to follow right from the start in order to start building the mystery and the romance.
First rule, don’t telegraph your interest in her. Remember, women don’t care for the bottom line approach. Besides, they know you’re interested in them.
How do they know?
Because you’re talking to them and actually showing some kind of interest in knowing something about them…this is enough for them to know that you’re interested. If you go out of the way to try and telegraph your interest, you’ve just killed the mystery.
Let’s face it, men aren’t like women when it comes to being socially open. Women will talk to anyone about anything and everything…even a stranger. But guys usually only engage someone in a conversation when we have a reason to.
So there’s no need to telegraph interest, if you’re talking to her that’s a sign enough.
Second rule, playful and teasing humor is the best way to get a fun and flirty vibe going right away. If you tease a girl, you start playing with her emotions. On one hand, you’re being fun and playful, but on the other hand, you have her guessing about whether or not you like her.
It’s perfect, especially since you can usually get her coming back to you with a few little jabs of her own. Believe it or not, what’s actually happening there is the beginning of sexual tension.
Just think about it, haven’t you ever had that great make up sex right after a fight? It’s because a little bit of friction arouses sexual tension, and there’s only one way to release that tension….can you guess what it is? J
Third rule, confidence is sexy. In fact, there’s nothing sexier to a woman than a man who has confidence. Not money, not muscles, not a great car, not a great body. Sure, it does help to have all these things.
But your level of personal confidence when it comes to your interaction with a woman is usually equally proportionate to the level of attraction you’re able to build.
Now, since we’re talking about confidence, I’m sure you’ve already heard the obvious things:
Eye contact. Yes, that’s important.
Good Posture: Yes, again, important.
Using her name when you speak to her. Yes, important.
A melodious and enthusiastic tone. Okay, okay…it’s important.
But you already know all those things are important….they key is making these things a natural part of your personality…and there’s only one way to do that: to have genuine confidence, to the very core of who you are, and this means that you put a high value on yourself.
This isn’t something that you can imitate. You have to develop it by approaching every new interaction with a woman with the mindset that you don’t need her to be attracted to you. You don’t need anything from her. You don’t even need her to like you.
While this might sound counterproductive, it will give you a sense of inner confidence which will allow you to play the indirect game of flirting without being afraid of whether or not you’re “doing well with her.”
And the final rule of having a fun and flirty first interaction….take it to a physical level as soon as possible.
Let’s talk about how to play that part of the game…