One of the key aspects of any good relationship—romance, friendship, or even co-workers—is respect. When people respect one other, potentially damaging issues are simply not blown out of proportion.
Respect does not always happens instantaneously in a relationship. It occurs when partners see each other for who they truly are. When there is respect for one another’s character, abilities, skills, and desires, couples are less likely to:
- Fight – While disagreements may (and likely will) still occur, there is much less chance of the types of major, heated fights that can hurt feelings and cause serious damage to a relationship. With mutual respect, both partners will have a genuine concern for the other person’s feelings and well-being.
- Name call – People who respect each other are less likely to stoop to name calling, sniping, or otherwise belittling their partners. The damage caused by these actions can be irreparable. Respect for yourself and your partner helps to prevent this.
- Stray – Relationships based on trust and respect tend to be very empowering and fulfilling. The self-esteem boost that comes from mutual respect discourages partners from being unfaithful.
If there is a lack of respect between you and your partner, it’s time to examine the characteristics that first bound you together.
Make a list of the qualities – going beyond physical attributes – that attracted you to one another. Perhaps your partner is very caring and empathetic. Maybe you offer a lighthearted, humorous appeal. Or it could be that you were drawn together by a mutual interest or skill.
When you revisit the traits that attracted you in the first place, it’s easier to rebuild respect. It’s also a good idea to focus on the reasons you fell in love with your partner. In fact, that is the next secret of couples who share lasting, happy, and fulfilling relationships.